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Helen Laibach's avatar

These writings about our names have become the catalyst I didn’t know I needed to reach an important revelation. All my life I’ve never liked my name, written off with “it’s an old lady name”. In truth it’s much deeper than that. From the ages of 6-17, I lived through being the stepdaughter to a very wicked stepmother. There was physical abuse (nothing like going to junior high with a fat lip) but the emotional abuse was far worse. My name was almost always associated with cruelty. “HELEN you’re so stupid! You’ll never amount to anything! You’re a liar! Why can’t you be more like your stepsister?! When you turn 18 and leave I can’t wait to throw a party and invite all my friends!”. At 17 when I left home, my farewell note read “Now you can throw your party”. Of course I’ve hated my name. I just had never made this deeper connection. More healing is definitely in order (tack it onto the many years in past lives devoted to therapy). The awareness to heal this name hatred I owe to you. Yes, it’s going to take a lot of work. I’m grateful for this onion peel. Thank you for being my emotional teleprompter ❤️‍🩹

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Kelly Gaeckle's avatar

Grief happens so much with chronic illnesses😔

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